A PODCAST THAT ENCOURAGES WOMEN TO BE THEMSELVES IN CHRIST

Can You Relate?

Before I had children, I knew I didn’t feel ready. I was 36 years old when I had my first daughter, and I still felt like a teenager. I used to think that some moms had all the answers and knew how to do all the right things. This kind of thinking made me question myself, everyday, as a mom (as a woman, period), but not anymore! God made me a mom for a reason. God made you a mom for a reason, too! I can tell you why: To raise up the next generation of Holy Spirit filled Jesus followers and to fulfill your family’s purpose on this Earth., today, and until His return.

Accept compliments as God's encouragement for you!

I used to debunk compliments and ignore my needs as a woman. Life was challenging. I had no idea that I was okay where I was and that I didn’t need any past sadness to manipulate my God blessing me as a mother.  I realized that this was a grievance for her. Her mom died when she was two months old. She never got to know her, and I believe this was a big insecurity for her as a mom, especially raising a girl of her own. Now, it’s my turn. One of my daughters was born the day before my mom’s birthday. I knew this was God showing me that I can lead my children His way and not be a casualty to the parenting that repeated throughout my family history. It’s time for Satan to flee! I know this is my time to rely upon the Lord and show a new generation in my family who God is and who He can be in their lives. Hallelujah! : )

Yvette Curtis-Brown

The Backstory

Before I had children, I knew I didn’t feel ready. I felt like a teenager, but I wasn’t. I was 36 years old and married. I knew we hadn’t put in the time, money, and effort to prove that we were ready to have kids. We married on (what I’d now call) “a whim”. We weren’t ready. My husband and I had been married for two months prior to the preggers news. We didn’t have our own place and didn’t have a plan. We’d just met eight months prior and had no idea who we were marrying. I was very disappointed that this would happen as if getting married would not bring additions to the family! I know there are moms who would have given everything to have a moment or pregnancy news. 

I’m not intending to sound insensitive, but having a child under our circumstances didn’t feel like the best decision, to me. I considered abortion and adoption. I didn’t know what I was going to do. I mean, I barely knew this guy! It wasn’t until we were married that I thought I may have made a terrible mistake.In my marriage, there was no true intimacy, talks, or excitement. It was as if I had set up myself right in the midst of the enemy’s camp, while whistling and waiting until the Lord showed up. Things went from bad to worse when we moved to my hometown (Baltimore), and I was bringing my sweet newborn daughter into this environment called a marriage. 

One day, I realized that I’d be raising my daughter without my mom. “I’m Ruthless! Ruthless Mothering!” I exclaimed as if awakening from a drunken stupor. I had no idea how I got where I was, except I really did know. There were many days when I’d cry out to God. He’d confirm, most times through His Word, that I was right where He wanted me to be.  It was hard for me to accept, and it wasn’t until just recently that I learned I needed a perspective change.

Triumphing!

The Lord has me on a journey, and boy is it humbling! But, I thank God for it! With Ruthless Mothering, I hope to learn from other moms who are following Christ in their own lives and families. I’ve often used my lack of knowledge as a stumbling block for pride to walk right over. There’s nothing wrong with not knowing what to do! It doesn’t mean you’re a bad mom because you don’t know certain things or ANYthing!

Most of my earlier decisions have proven to me that I had no idea what I was doing. I needed more healing than I ever thought! Before I closed myself off to Him, God helped me. I allowed the negative talk from the devil to tell me that I was ruining my kids’ lives. It’s when I closed myself off to God (and believing  the devil, instead) that I’ve been  pulling out my hair, wondering how and when things would get better.

Won’t you tune in to the Ruthless Mothering Podcast for more stories, as we go deep into the emotions, thoughts and feelings of motherhood – of being a woman, period! Thanks for your interest in RM. If you have any suggestions, questions, or comments, please email me at ruthless@ruthlessmothering.com!

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